Everyone deserves to be safe.

Domestic violence is a pattern of behavior that involves using many tactics from verbal, emotional and financial abuse to physical and sexual assaults.

Domestic violence is about power and control over another person in an intimate relationship. An abuser’s attempts to control their partner can be intimidating and damaging.

For anyone experiencing domestic violence they may feel fear, guilt, shame, embarrassment and pain. Their self-esteem suffers and the controlling and intimidating behavior of their partner can isolate them from seeking support.

Domestic violence happens to people of all walks of life, it does not matter their race, ethnicity, social class, age or gender, if you're LGBT or not. Domestic violence happens to both men and women however 90% to 95% of the victims are women.

What is Domestic Violence

Facts About Abuse

Domestic violence is a pattern of behavior that involves using many tactics from verbal, emotional and financial abuse to physical and sexual assaults.

Domestic violence is about power and control over another person in an intimate relationship. An abuser’s attempts to control their partner can be intimidating and damaging.

For anyone experiencing domestic violence they may feel fear, guilt, shame, embarrassment and pain. Their self-esteem suffers and the controlling and intimidating behavior of their partner can isolate them from seeking support.

Domestic violence happens to people of all walks of life, it does not matter their race, ethnicity, social class, age or gender, if you're LGBT or not. Domestic violence happens to both men and women however 90% to 95% of the victims are women.

Abuse often starts subtly—and can be hard to recognize or describe. But knowing the signs empowers individuals and communities to intervene, support survivors, and prevent escalation. Below is a guide to potential red flags in various types of abuse.

Intimate Partner & Dating Violence

Abuse in relationships can take many forms:

Warning Signs of Abuse

    • Fear of expressing disagreement or making partner angry

      Public humiliation, insults, manipulation

    • Coercive threats (e.g., “If you leave me, I’ll harm myself”) 

    • Being pushed, slapped, kicked, thrown

    • Frequent “accidental” injuries

    • Restricts access to friends, family, or medical care

    • Pressure or force for unwanted sexual activity

    • Feeling unsafe saying “no”

    • Sex used as a tool of control rather than mutual consent

Signs in Other Types of Abuse

    • Sudden behavioral changes or academic decline

    • Regression (bedwetting, fearfulness)

    • Unexplained bruises, withdrawal, or aggression

    • Unexplained injuries or malnutrition

    • Isolation from friends and family

    • Sudden financial changes (missing money, new caretakers)

    • Persistent unwanted contact via calls, messages, tracking

    • Presence at home/work against their will

    • Sending unwanted gifts or threats

Alaska-Specific Context

  • Approximately 58% of Alaska women have faced intimate partner or sexual violence—far exceeding national averages 

  • Alaskan youth report rising depression (27% → 43%) and electronic bullying (14.7% → 20%)—factors that both reflect and worsen abuse dynamics.

  • Abuse disproportionately affects Alaska Native communities—85% of Alaska Native women report experiencing violence, often combined with historical trauma and limited access to resources.

Why Recognizing Warning Signs Matters

  • Early awareness allows timely intervention, potentially stopping abuse before it grows.

  • Bystander education (like Upstander/Bystander) equips community members to safely interrupt or report suspicious behavior.

  • Identifying signs in youth or seniors opens opportunities for targeted support and system involvement (e.g., child protection services).

What You Can Do

  1. Listen & validate: Believe survivors who express concerns.

  2. Offer information: Share local resources like Haven House, CARELINE (877) 266-4357, or the National Domestic Violence Hotline (800) 799-7233.

  3. Stay with them: Offer safety planning support and practical help.

  4. Report: Call 911 for emergencies; report child or elder abuse to appropriate authorities.

  5. Get trained: Learn bystander skills through Upstander/Bystander or attend prevention workshops.

Resources & Training

  • Join Upstander/Bystander Alaska workshops to build bystander intervention skills 

  • Attend CDVSA’s Prevention Summit to learn community-based response techniques 

  • Use ANDVSA’s online trainings to understand dynamics of power, control, and trauma-informed response

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